Initiating the first physical contact in a relationship can be intimidating, especially if you are going for the iconic first kiss. The most reliable way to get a kiss is simply asking for one. As mentioned many times on this site, men prefer direct communication, and would be thrilled if you even initiate the kiss yourself. But, if you are particularly shy, that’s ok too. Body language is a great way to convey that you are ready to proceed with a guy. Either way, the following advice will help you find a way on how to get a guy to kiss you.
Asking
Though asking for a kiss may initially sound weird, it’s not uncommon or abnormal in any way. In my experience, guys find it pretty cute, and even sexy. If you have been having a good time with a man and he seems interested as well, just ask for a kiss. It’s straightforward, simple, and confident. Unsure how? Try asking at the end of the night, just before you part ways:
“I had a really great time tonight. Before I go, can I have a kiss?”
Or, take a less direct, but obvious direction everyone should understand the meaning of, and act like you are cold at some point during your date! Say it out loud while rubbing your arms, and hopefully he will either put his arm around you or give you a jacket. Either way, move closer to him.
Initiating
If you’re feeling even more self-assured, be the one to make the first move and initiate a kiss yourself. Don’t be too forceful, as there is a chance that the guy won’t feel it is the right time quite yet. The first kiss should always be consensual and enjoyable for both parties. However, don’t be hesitant either. If he has shown obvious interest and you are on a date, what have you got to lose? Most likely, he will find your boldness extremely alluring.
Again, if you don’t feel comfortable stealing the moment during a short walk or during your date, the perfect time is at the end of the night just before you part ways. If he is dropping you off, unbuckle your seatbelt and lean over for a quick smooch before you get out. Or, fiddle with your keys and lean in for a goodnight kiss before opening your door if he walks you home. Even a quick peck on the cheek can go a long way.
Physical Contact
If the first two tactics don’t appeal to you, don’t worry. Introducing other forms of physical contact can let a guy know you are ready for a kiss, or make you more comfortable with him before deciding to make the move.
Try brushing his hand with yours while walking side by side, to signify that you want to hold hands. Take any opportunity you may get to do so, while going for the saltshaker at dinner, sharing popcorn at the movies, or chatting at a coffee shop. Eventually, you can gently grab his hand and test the waters.
Laughter during an amusing conversation is a great opportunity to touch his arm, emphasizing your enjoyment. If you joke around with each other often, try giving your guy a playful shove or nudge.
Don’t be afraid to lay your head on his shoulder if the moment presents itself, whether you are watching a movie or sitting side by side on a bench during a sweet stroll in the park.
If you feel uncomfortable giving him a goodnight kiss, go in for a simple hug, and perhaps he will take the extra initiative. As mentioned before, sneaking in a peck on the cheek is a quick step in the right direction too.
All of these are simple and low-pressure ways to make it clear that you are interested in your date, and comfortable with physical contact. Again, these tactics can pave the way for him to make the move for a first kiss, or they can begin to give you the confidence to give him one.
Body Language
Aside from physically touching your date, other types of body language can be clear indicators of interest in a kiss. When in doubt, demonstrate how much you are enjoying yourself through a simple smile. Laugh at his jokes, don’t hide your excitement to see him, or simply smile if you make eye contact during a pause in conversation.
Eye contact is also vital. Maintaining eye contact shows clear interest, and allowing him to notice you glancing at his lips a few times makes your message even stronger. Additionally, lean in when he is talking to you to demonstrate that you want to hear what he says, and also get closer to him. Both of these tactics have been proven to be psychologically powerful by professionals. Definitely don’t underestimate them.
Flirt
Head on over to “How to Flirt” and brush up on your skills. Flirtation is an excellent way to let your date know that you are interested, even if you are shy and simply giggle at his jokes. If it takes you awhile to warm up to each other, don’t fret. Flirtation is a continuous art that will eventually lead to a first kiss, even if not on the first date. You have control over what you are comfortable with, and sometimes building up the suspense is even more fun that rushing into a first kiss! Just make sure not to leave yourself, or him, hanging. No one likes to play games if the both of you are truly interested.
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