We all seem to know a girl, at least one in our immediate social circle, who embodies sensuality in every form. Every where she walks, nature itself moans. She’s enticing, and you can’t even put your finger on how or why. You can’t even figure out, as a presumably straight woman, if you’re drawn into her too. Again, presumably, you don’t want to get down with her, you basically just want to wear her skin and possess all her things in a totally non-creepy manner. Is it her dewy eyes, or her pouty lips? For the rest of us, being sexy might not come as naturally. This is frustrating when you want to get down to a little more intimacy and show a guy you like him, or love him. But that’s alright! Everything can be bettered with practice and exploration. And you definitely have something to offer lovely lady! It’s okay if it takes a bit of time to see what you can bring to the table. But a good first step to seduction is to understand what you’ve got, and use it to your advantage. So, what do you like about you aesthetically? Do you like your hair, or your skin, or maybe your hips? Maybe you like your smile, or your eyes. Work these aspects into your seductive routine. What does your man respond to? Is it your voice, or maybe your giggles? Take note of what gets him excited in general. Once you’ve spent some time reflecting on that, we have some tips and techniques on how to seduce your man to showing a guy you like him.
Whether we like it or not, our clothing speaks. It says a whole lot before we ourselves can get a chance to verbalize what we want. It’s not everything, but it can go quite a ways in playing up your attributes and expressing what you wish to express on a more subtle subconscious level. Remember a few moments ago when you figured out which parts of you are particularly stunning? Wear makeup that makes your already dazzling eyes pop. Wear clothing that suits your frame. You really don’t need an hourglass figure to create an outfit that plays into your specific curves or lack of curves. If you’re very slender, wear garments that are cinched at the waist to bring out that hippy attribute. If you’re more buxom, wear garments cinched just below the bust.
Go red. Many sources corroborate the sexual appeal of the color red on a woman. This is thought to be attributed to the flushed look a woman has when she is sexually aroused. Her chest will turn pink, as well as other parts of her body as they swell with increased blood flow. Red is an arousing color. You might really take advantage of this color if you also happen to be in your most fertile time of your menstrual cycle. Looking glowing, supple, and red, will communicate attraction, aiding in your overall quest to show a guy that you like him.
Make Him Feel Validated
All of us as humans want to feel validated. It starts as soon as we’re born and need attention just to survive. We often want to know that our feelings, dreams, and maybe opinions are valid. In conversation, find common ground or areas of agreement with him. Elaborate on his experiences where you can to show that you understand him or the way he thinks. Just don’t shut him down or belittle his experiences and passions. Show genuine interest in them, even if you don’t share them. Tell him how fascinating you find them. This will really show the guy that you like him for him. You know, unless of course his passion is hanging shrunken heads on the ceiling fan, then you might want to run and figure out how restraining orders work. There are always exceptions to everything. But in general, this will help him to feel more comfortable with you. Comfort can be the key in the art of seduction. Allow him to relax in your presence.
Let’s Get Physical
If you’re feeling ready to move things into a more physical sphere, be honest about it. It’s important that he knows so that the two of you don’t end up playing any mind games. You might not need to go into the extent of your fantasies up front. Save that as delicious ammo for later. But being blunt, according to WikiHow, is something men respond to sexually. If you ask him a few blunt, sexually prying questions, he might get a little flustered, but he might like it and it could get him thinking.
As for setting the tone for physical contact, start with small things. Playful punches and touching his arm are mostly universally accepted signs, if done with repetition. The more you touch him in these small ways, the more it gets him used to the idea of you touching him. Oh and don’t do so many playful punches that you end up bruising the guy. We want playful, not domestic abuse.
Play games, not mind games, but competitive games. Sometimes competition can get people in a cockier mood, pun intended. It’s a fun way to challenge him, while increasing the air of sexual tension.
When you’re ready to move onto the real physical action, focus on commonly known erogenous zones. The earlobes and neck respond to kisses and licking and nibbling in both genders. Pro-tip though, don’t slobber on his earlobes. Nobody wants to feel like they’re getting love-mauled by a puppy in bed. Be aware of how much saliva you’re actually dealing with. Men also respond well to scalp massages.
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