If you are absolutely ready to conquer the dating game and enter a relationship, there are many ways to begin your search for a great partner. Most importantly, don’t get so wrapped up in craving a love life that you forget to be yourself and end up abandoning everything else that makes you happy. No matter your situation or desired qualities in a partner, hopefully the following information will aid in your quest on how to find a boyfriend!
Ask Your Friends
Don’t be ashamed to ask your friends for the names of any eligible guys they may know. In fact, this is one of my favorite ways to meet people, because it’s not a blind chase, and friends can offer prior information, in addition to advice, about your potential date. Close friends should know you very well, so they will probably carefully consider whom they set you up with. With any luck, you two will be extremely compatible and your decision to ask around will be worthwhile. I’ve met many a boyfriend, who turned into being some of my longest lasting relationships, through friends and have zero regrets about asking for help.
Remind yourself repeatedly that you don’t have anything to lose be asking someone out, or by going on yet another date. Try to stop worrying about the ultimate outcome of each move you make, and just enjoy exploring every option. Being perpetually open minded is the best thing you can do for yourself. The more people you meet, the increased likelihood that you will meet someone you are interested in. It’s also great to learn from relationships or dates that don’t work out, even though it’s not always the best experience. Relationships that fizzle out and dates gone wrong can teach you how to make the most of a situation, and also what you are looking for in a partner. Thus, they basically prepare you for Mr. Right! So fret not.
Aside from any alone time you make require recharging, try to spend more time in public and around other people. Instead of eating lunch in your office or alone in your room, find a nice bench outside, or a public place that allows food. Work on assignments or other necessary tasks at a hip café. Going to the gym more often can be very beneficial to your physical health, but it could also end up being where you meet a future date. You never know what possibilities await, so venture out and surround yourself with new people as much as you can.
Leave Your Past Behind
If you are in search of a new relationship, end unhealthy habits now and stop stalking your ex on social media all the time. Don’t judge yourself for any passing thoughts. Rather, catch them when they come, notice them, and release them. It will grow easier as time passes, and eventually you won’t be thinking about your ex at all anymore. Releasing past relationships and feelings paves the way for heartfelt interest in a new person. It also allows for the ability to cultivate a healthy relationship, instead of one based on a need to rebound and feelings of jealousy. Do it to help yourself, and to prepare for an even better future.
If you recognize a guy that might be interested, acknowledge him. Recognizing people repeatedly and speaking to them is the very first step to building a relationship. So, the next time you see the same cute barista working at your favorite coffee shop, or you meet the nice basketball player at your local gym, say hi and start a conversation. If things go well, you could be meeting each other weekly and setting up a date before you know it. Similarly, if you have a class with an interesting man, sit by him and talk to him, or get to know your fellow employees at work.
Hang Out in Small Groups
If you’re in the mood to meet someone new this weekend, choose a few girlfriends to go out with instead of the whole crowd. It’s less intimidating for guys to approach you, and for you to approach a new guy, than when all of your girlies are looking on and giggling in the corner. It sets up a much more intimate environment.
Find New Hot Spots
When you’re feeling a little adventurous, walk into a new place for lunch, or explore an unfamiliar park downtown. You will definitely bump into some new faces that don’t frequent your usual hangouts. Try new things as often as possible while also avoiding anything that pushes you too far outside of your comfort zone. But, why not make your search for a boyfriend an adventure of it’s own, and make some memories on the way?
Practice putting yourself out there and expanding your comfort zone. If you aren’t usually the one to give him your number first, try it. Try asking someone on a first date or texting him first rather than the other way around. Overcome some preliminary nerves to make the first moves in a fresh encounter. Not only will the man probably find your advances alluring, but you can take control of the situation for a change. Practicing will significantly improve your confidence and ability to interact with potential boyfriends, even if a bit nerve racking at first.
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