Everyone wants to know how to find true love, yet, unfortunately, there is still no perfect formula. Everyone’s life is extremely unique, and your journey to love will be unlike anyone else’s. That being said, a little advice on how to meet guys, and a little advice about how to identify potential signs of true love within yourself may help you along the way. Keep in mind that you must adjust this information to your individual lifestyle, but that everyone can take the following to heart.
Increasing Your Chances of Meeting Someone
Don’t Force Anything
Trying new things is always a great way to enrich your life and meet new people, but don’t force yourself to speed date or create a phony online account in order to attempt unlikely mates if that isn’t your style. One of the best ways to find true love is to do the things you enjoy, and to meet people wherever you may live your life. For example, try to strike up conversations with guys at your favorite bar on the weekend. Or, with someone you may encounter while working. If you enjoy music, don’t be afraid to talk to someone new at a concert, etc. etc.
The best relationships surface naturally, with a little extra effort on your part. Definitely seek out dates and truly try if you meet someone that you are interested in. But, don’t try to force anything with someone who doesn’t seem interested or just isn’t working out, even if you thought it would be perfect.
It can be hard to deal with if you have been seeking out a relationship for a while, but haven’t met any luck. It’s ok to feel a little bit discouraged. But don’t give up. If you become too upset and end up ceasing to be active in your life by shutting yourself in, you decrease any chances of meeting a mate to zero. Continue to go to bars with friends on the weekends, to read books at coffee shops on sunny afternoons, to study at the library instead of in your room, and whatever other activities consume your life. You will come into contact with more people every day, and eventually, it will turn into a date.
Signs of True Love
This is a no brainer. Yes, every relationship faces some rocky times. However, you should be happy with your partner the majority of the time. If you find yourself bickering on a regular basis or walking away from every encounter engulfed by feelings of sadness or anger, he probably isn’t the one. Even when you fight, your true love should care about your feelings, and will never throw you under the bus just to be ‘right.’
Physical attraction is not everything, and judging someone solely based on appearance reveals very little about his or her capacity to be a great partner. However, it shouldn’t be completely factored out of the equation. Physical attraction is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship, simply because it’s in our biology. Thus, if you find yourself swooning with someone, or if you discover feelings of total sexual compatibility, then at least one piece of the true love puzzle is solved.
Being comfortable with your significant other is extremely important. It’s not an easy feat to admit vulnerability and to remain relaxed, but if the both of you do so and feel safe confiding in one another, then your relationship is probably a keeper. Likewise, if you feel ready to be physically intimate with a partner in ways you have never been before, it signifies that you feel very safe with him.
On the other hand, if feelings of discomfort arise when introducing your significant other to friends and family, such insecurities are a bad sign. It’s normal to be nervous, but any feelings stronger than that can be an indication of a bigger problem.
One of the greatest things about finding true love is discovering how it changes you. If you find yourself willing to do whatever you can to help out your significant other, to try new things with them, to consider opinions other than your own, to put him before yourself, or to accept a few hard truths and use them to become a better person, you may have found true love. Don’t be afraid of change. Instead, learn to embrace how beautiful it can be.
On the other hand, if you find yourself wanting to change your significant other, or if he is constantly trying to change things about you, it’s a bad sign. If you regularly feel like you have to win his affecting in any way, leave the relationship and don’t look back. Forcing change is a sign of incompatibility and malice and should not be tolerated.
Probably one of the most difficult aspects of loving is learning to forgive. If you find that, even after the toughest arguments, you still have the desire to resolve the situation and forgive your partner, then you may have found true love. Forgiveness is a sign of willingness to let go of anger in order to salvage your relationship with someone; to put their feelings in a place of importance over your own.
In short, don’t fight tooth and nail in order to maintain a relationship that causes more damage than it does positivity. And, many a time, putting every ounce of effort into finding the perfect man will only be exhausting. Live your life, go on dates, do what you do, and recognize the right person when true love finally arrives.
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