At times we develop listlessness toward finding fun activities. Sometimes we feel uninspired in creating cute ways to communicate appreciation toward our boyfriends. Sometimes the monster of ennui grabs us by our hearts and threatens to make our relationship that we value so much, very boring. Before you know it, the horror of your mind has manifested into reality, leaving you and your boyfriend sitting around repeating, “What do you want to do?” followed by “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” This is the slow death of relationships. Not really. I’m just kidding. Every relationship will have down time but we definitely don’t want to stay stuck in it right? So, that said, we’ve come up with some things to do with your boyfriend. This should help you relax, have fun, and enjoy his company, escaping the grips of boredom.
Do a Surprise Concert for Two
Sometimes we forget the power that music can have when shared between two human beings. Take a car ride out to a place with a clear view of the stars, or a nice view of the city. Make sure to have purchased the album of an artist you two mutually love, and have it readily loaded into your iPod or music player of choice that is compatible with the car. You don’t want a technical mishap to happen. That would be awkward. Once parked and positioned, play the album and rock out with your socks out. We’re not sure who first came up with such a catch-phrase but are willing to bet they knew how to have a good time. You can also silently listen, holding hands or cuddling. There is another fun way to accomplish this that has been circling around the internet. Some people will hang headphones from trees, connected to a multiple headphone music player sitting in the ridge of the tree. You can make the setting a little romantic with some white Christmas lights or other ambient lighting. Have an evening of it.
There is a lot to be said about this. Stress in and of itself isn’t bad, according to a TED Talk by Psychologist Kelly McGonigal. In her findings she reported that the negative physiological effects of stress can actually disappear if we view stress in a positive light or in other words if we channel it; if we view it as a tool to help us accomplish goals. Students who view stress positively score better on exams than those who stress about their stress. In long-term studies, people facing stressful situations didn’t have higher mortality rates if they didn’t view stress negatively. The problem today is that we don’t always have ways to channel our stress or find a positive outlet. This all makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint. When our ancient ancestors were stressed, it was because of imminent danger to their lives and usually whatever was causing the stress, was something you had to literally run from. Isn’t it interesting then, that running relieves stress? Our ancestors likely did not have much pent up or bottled stress because they were physically active and thus, all that stress was channeled, used, and released. Today we are more sedentary. We have more abstract thoughts running around in our minds and sometimes that itself can lead us into self-made stress. It’s harder to make that kind of stress productive. Science claims that marrieds live longer than singles. It is suggested that it is because of the stress-relief that relationships can bring (contrary to McGonigal’s findings). With all this said, the safe route is a balance of using your stress when you can, and finding ways to gently release it as well. Because of this, taking good care will always be a cute thing to do for your boyfriend.
He deals with all kind of stressors, just like you. Plan or create ways to help him relieve that tension. Sign the two of you up for a couples massage. Give him a massage personally. Draw him a hot bath with soothing bath salts. Play some first-person-shooters or video games with him (another studied thing that correlates with stress reduction). Take him to the beach. Work out together. Get the stress out physically by jogging alongside each other, or going to a gym together. These efforts to help him feel happier and healthier will make him feel cared for.
Another cute thing you can do for your boyfriend is to set up games for you to enjoy. Good old fashioned “Would You Rather” is great if you both have zany brains that enjoy randomness. Play some rounds of chess if you enjoy intellectual sparring. Set up some trivia for him if he’s a nerd and make it interesting by rewarding him with some type of affection of your choice, for whatever he gets right. Cards Against Humanity is a great adult favorite. And it can even be played online these days if you Google “play cards against humanity online”. If you’re both athletic, it’s even easier to compete together. Having someone that both challenges you and supports you can be a great facet to any relationship.
What do you both love to create? Are you both artists? Start a painting or sketch and then ask him to finish it. Are you musicians? Collaborate on a musical piece with him. Are you writers? Write poetry together, or fiction and nonfiction together. Don’t do any of those things? That’s fine because the majority of us, at some point in our lives, have to cook. Eating out can be costly and also not as healthy at times. So, thus, in our budding adult lives we learn the wizardry that is cooking. Deciding on a meal you’d both enjoy and cooking it together builds an established feeling of team-work. All of these activities are also designed to make him feel like his input matters and is valued. That is why they make for cute things to do for your boyfriend.
The world is vast and sometimes we merely forget this. Fun can be had in any area of our life, with good company. There are many things to do with your boyfriend, if you simply get him involved in the various facets of your being human. Enjoy each other, and enjoy the world you two create together.
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