So, you’ve met someone interesting, but you barely know each other or don’t see him often. You want to begin flirting, but aren’t sure how to attract his attention in the first place. More often than not, movies teach us to take roundabout approaches, expecting men to pick up on our perfume as we pass and instantly fall in love. I hate to burst your bubble, but most of the time, this isn’t a reliable way to begin a relationship. Though there are certainly subtle ways to begin your pursuit, take more direct approaches seriously, as mentioned in” How to Talk to Guys.” Try mixing the following tactics for the best success on how to get a guy’s attention.
The best way to push someone away is by closing yourself off and playing hard to get. Don’t let your guard down, but always remain friendly and open if you really want to get to know a guy. Don’t avoid his eye contact, even if you are nervous, and avoid fidgeting too much. Instead, keep your arms uncrossed and smile, to invite conversation. Also try not to appear distracted, by being too occupied with your phone. Try catching his gaze yourself by looking his way and locking eyes. If he catches you looking, and if you throw in a flirtatious smile, he will definitely notice your attention.
It’s pretty hard to determine if someone truly notices you unless you actually speak. To be very sure, try to engage in conversation regularly so he begins to recognize you. Then, you can begin to build familiarity with each other. Start out small. Say hi or wave each time you see him, and eventually, when the both of you have time, begin to chat.
While it’s important to avoid going overboard and toeing the line between interested in creepy, if you notice where he enjoys spending time, try enjoying the same spots, and perhaps you will run into him. For example, if he enjoys a certain coffee shop, go there to study more often and wave. Or, if you know of his favorite weekend haunts, plan an outing there with your friends. Don’t follow him around, and don’t pry, but make yourself be seen and say hi when it feels natural. Even better if you meet someone at your favorite places!
Once you feel comfortable initiating a conversation, begin with simple, everyday questions like, “how are you,” or “how is your day going.” If you happen to attend school together, try to sit by him in class and ask him questions about homework, which could eventually lead to a study date. If you work together, make small talk by the copy machine or have a few words when you arrive and depart for the day. The same goes for if you only see him in passing at his favorite coffee shop or hang out spot. Eventually, your interactions will evolve from sparse, to comfortable, and you can ask for his number if he doesn’t ask you first.
Once you cross that milestone, begin to talk about your interests. No need to get too deep, but establish an acquaintanceship, and soon enough you will be comfortable enough to ask him out, or vice versa.
Confidence is the answer to many dating questions. Though, if its difficult for you, you should ultimately work on confidence for your own benefit, if you are noticeably confident in yourself while around a guy, he will notice. Exude enthusiasm in all of your interactions, be personable to everyone around you, and make it clear that you are an enjoyable person to be around. He will notice when you are around, and will be drawn to you.
This is when special hints can come into play. Though a guy may not be conscious about noticing your perfume or outfit, the little things can no doubt make an impression. Therefore, if you take special pride in your wardrobe, break out your favorite outfits on days you know you will see him. If you love perfume, wear some. If you are a makeup or hair gal, take special care and rock your look. Also, love your intelligence. Be active in class or in your working environment and he will notice your brain as well.
Strive for Success
Demonstrate your independence and liveliness by being focus oriented, in your schoolwork, your professional life, and your life passions. Guys notice women who excel at what they do and know what they are capable of. So let yourself shine. Don’t be pompous, but again, be confident. By the same token, strive for success in your relationship. Make it clear that you want to get to know him, and don’t be afraid to text him first.
Know How to Flirt
Though it’s been widely discussed that men prefer direction communication, the art of flirting is a universal language. If you act interested, chances are he will pick up on it. Aside from reviewing the “How to Flirt” article, look to the above advice for opportunities to throw in a playful smile or wave.
The most interesting partners are the ones who are able to truly engage you. Once you get comfortable with each other, don’t let the conversation die. Start your interaction with news about a recent event you know he will be interested in. Or, if he asks you questions, never answer with a simple yes or no. Elaborate and ask him even more questions. For example, if he asks you if you’ve seen a recent movie, discuss your thoughts, or mention any reviews you’ve heard. Eventually, the back and forth will become natural.
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