This is a popular topic, but also a difficult one to crack and really understand what turns men on. Though we could probably lump many male preferences into groups of generalized tastes, every single guy you meet will be different. As such, every individual man will be turned on by something completely different. It’s important to remember this and figure out specifics regarding the guy you are attracted to each time you are interested in someone new. However, in an attempt to give some useful pointers, here are a few general things that, more often than not, turn men on. Remember that, these are things you can do to contribute, but your date should always return the effort.
Who doesn’t like confidence? Especially in an era when we are all constantly bombarded with information about other fabulous human beings, including perfectly photo shopped images of ideal bodies, we find confidence attractive because it’s a sign of strength. It’s a difficult quality to bolster within yourself at times, but all of us are capable. And, its probably one of the sexiest qualities a woman can exude.
To turn a man on, wear clothes you are comfortable and confidant wearing. None of us look like the altered celebrities on Cosmo, so forget about them, pick your favorite outfit and rock your figure. It feels great, and will demonstrate to whoever you may be interested in that you are beautiful and you know it. Eventually, when things get physical, confidence in your body will lead to confidence in the bedroom, which is absolutely invaluable. Know what you look and feel good wearing, know what you like, and go for it.
Just as importantly, learn to own your opinions, ideas, and your brain. Nothing is sexier than a woman who loves herself inside and out, and is totally sure about every aspect of her being. You don’t have to wear your emotions on your sleeve or jump at every opportunity to weigh in on a conversation if that isn’t your style. Rather, believe in your ability to converse, your experiences, what you know about the world, and what you have to say.
Likewise, what is life without a little passion? Whether you love old books, exotic fish, French cuisine, or making music, genuinely expressing a passion for some aspect of life is stimulating and attractive to men. It signifies that you enjoy living and have found something extremely invigorating to pursue, which reveals your ability to access a depth of interest in men.
To turn a man on intellectually, discuss something you are passionate about. Ask him about his experiences with or opinions about such a topic, and generate a conversation. Soon, you will convey your ability to think critically and get excited about something, which will, in turn, be interesting to him. Also inquire about his own passions.
Alternatively, the other kind of passion is a major turn on for men too. Want to get romantic? Let him know. An affinity for both romantic and physical passionate is something most men dream of. To do this, plan a romantic dinner date and show up in your favorite black dress, along with some sexy heels. Or, invite him over for a homemade meal, complete with candles and mood music. See “Romantic Dinner Ideas” for even more ideas.
A sense of humor
Life without laughter isn’t worth living, and though any serious relationship is destined to have its serious moments, people are largely looking for someone they can have fun with. So, don’t be afraid to have a little fun and joke with your guy. Be goofy! An attractive sense of humor can range from throwing out the wittiest of comments, to starting a playful pillow fight, complete with wrestling and maybe even some frisky business.
To turn a man on, flirt shamelessly! Be clever, be playful, be whatever you want to be. Flirt throughout your daily encounters, flirt on your dates, and flirt on the way back to your place, if you decide to go that far. Never stop flirting. Again, reference “How to Flirt,” for more in depth commentary.
Or, appeal to his adventurous side. Turn childlike activities into silly adult fun. Go to an amusement park together. Build a fort and watch movies with a glass of wine in hand and a cozy cuddle space. He will find it irresistible.
As the most obvious of turn-ons, this one is a no brainer. Nonetheless, executing the right kind of physical contact may be new to you. No matter what approach you choose, accompanied with a flirtatious smile and clear intentions, physical contact is sure to be an instant turn on.
One simple way to turn a man on is to linger during a kiss. Let it last just a few seconds longer than usual, and maybe bite your lip as you pull away. Hesitation to stop kissing makes it clear that you enjoy it, and that you want more.
Whisper to him during an appropriate moment. If you happen to be on a date in a loud restaurant, lean in to whisper something, and be sure to allow your lips to brush his ear a few times. It’s subtle, yet very physically stimulating.
Utilize your eye contact. Eye contact is an extremely powerful tool. Look into your date’s eyes directly, while talking to him, while dancing, while doing whatever you are doing, and don’t waver. Enjoy his gaze, without staring too intently, and he will certainly enjoy yours as well.
As mentioned in the article, “First Date Advice”, it is always in your best interest to be genuine. Anyone who isn’t interested in your true personality isn’t work your time. Also, don’t underestimate the power of being yourself with a guy. In fact, allowing your personal quirks and preferences to shine through can be extremely sexy. Perhaps you have developed a habit of twirling your hair, or biting your lip when you think. The smallest nuances can sometimes be the sexiest of actions to a man, especially as you are getting to know each other.
Similarly, be honest about what you like when you do start to get physical. When initial turn-ons lead to physical arousal, allowing yourself individuality will go just as far. Your man will enjoy discovering what makes you different.
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